A few years ago, OKCupid calculated that 96.25% of e Harmony’s profiles are inactive, using numbers provided by e Harmony themselves.Match was only marginally better, coming in at 93.1% inactive.Winks demonstrate laziness and lack of specific, intense interest in you that will invariably show up later in letdowns, small and large.
I guarantee that the man who will ultimately want to marry you will not send you a "wink." Please don't be fooled into thinking he's "shy" or just intimidated by your fabulousness.
But just like at a bar, any member can approach you.
If you’ve made some changes and you’re still getting negative matches in your inbox, stop fretting, and delete them.
Maybe you're inwardly flattered, but generally you ignore such attention. "Hmmmm" may be Man Code for many things (e.g., "sleeping with you might be interesting," or "I'm bored so please entertain me with witty online banter").
You certainly don't whistle back -- or go and start a conversation! It signals ambivalence and/or arrogance -- not decisiveness and determination.