But anyway.) It’s just so transparent, watching one of these paragons of fragile masculinity take his male privilege out for a spin and realize he can date someone so young she won’t know how inappropriate it is. Why not father a child you’ll be too old to raise properly while you’re at it?The exact ages and differentials vary, but each one reinforces one important point: Women get less valuable as they age, while men just get to enjoy the ride.I know, I know: Why care that two consenting adults are canoodling when a demagogue is about to take the White House?(Donald Trump, for the record, is 24 years older than his wife Melania, and each time he’s gotten married, it’s been to a younger woman.If I’d amassed a share of the Rolling Stones pension pot, alleged to amount to £1bn, it might have been more obvious what my wife saw in me.As it is, however, the last 14 years have not only been the happiest of my life: they have also brought me a level of financial security I have never known – owing, in large part, to sharing my life for the first time with a wife with whom it is possible to talk and plan sensibly about money. We sympathize, but technology keeps improving and we have to keep up, too.
Twenty percent of those men marry women 20 years younger.
Now 67, I am the same age as Ronnie Wood, whose marriage to Sally – a woman three decades younger – featured in the Telegraph yesterday. She has said she wishes she had met me 10 years earlier and wishes, also, that there might have been 10 years fewer difference between us.
Bryony Gordon’s affectionate profile made it look like a happy marriage with no illusions on the bride’s behalf. When she had perhaps drunk a glass of wine too many one evening some years ago, she did admit that she feared being a widow at 60; but it is also true that, before we married, she called me “the nicest boyfriend I have ever had” and, within living memory, she said that she wouldn’t swap me for Brad Pitt. And that is even without my having the obvious, overwhelming attractions of that shrivelled, wizened midget Ronnie Wood.
According to Business Insider, evolutionary psychologists say that younger women and older men often get together because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.
That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.